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- I was wondering how do the girls here feel about guys that never gave them the time of day (dating wise) because they had weight on, but then when you lost the weight they became interested in you? Like a guy that would come right out and say he wasn't interested in dating because he isn't attracted to overweight women.
I know people say we are attracted to what we are attracted to, and I agree in a way, but at the same time it rubs me the wrong way since I was/am the overweight girl. Even when I am thin, I still feel like the fat girl and will always have to eat like I am on a diet.
Do these type of people deserve our time, or people are people and it's human nature for men to be more attracted to thin women?|||It's funny b/c I just brought this up in the "weight loss confessions" thread in the 30-something area. Part of me wants to find the guys that wouldn't give me the time of day, look them deep in their eyes and work them up, then tell them that since they didn't like me fat I don't like them NOW...and then watch them drop their jaws. LOL
HOWEVER...there was 1 guy, a good friend of mine, that I always had the hots for and he gave me the time of day even fat. Him...him I will track down and impress w/ my new body. ;)|||Well... unless there are other strikes against the person that are deal breakers to me (rude, lies, cheats, drinks, drugs, etc) I wouldn't hold this preference against them. Could just as well be "Attracted to people in glasses" or "attracted to red heads."
As you say, people are attracted to whatever it is that attracts them. The things that attract them can also change as they age. I don't dig skateboarding teens like I used to when I was 14! ;)
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I think its natural to find someone fitter, healthier more attractive . Look at Mike from this season of TBL. I certainly didn't find him attractive at 520+ lbs. But at 250, he was far more attractive. I don't think that makes me a wicked person, so I can't set a diffeent standard for men.|||Have you seen the Showtime series, "Drop Dead Diva?" There's a heavy lead actress who's very sexy and has several men after her.