Have most of you guys had your share of awkward or rude comments because of being overweight?
During my workout today, I somehow remembered a boy I dated when I was.. oh, probably 12 or 13. I remember we went out for calzones and he asked me, "Do you think I'm fat?"
Well, he was overweight, probably by about 20 or 30 pounds, but I said, "Oh, ofcourse not..... Do you think I am?"
And he says, "well, yeah, no offense."
Hahahah no offense! Sure I'm not offended. :dizzy: The funniest thing is, I wasn't even officially overweight at the time (going by BMI). I was at the heigh end of the weight range for my height.
Oyyy.. can anyone relate?
I have noticed with guys that they tend to say what they think without the same social filter that a woman might use (doh!)
close to my highest weight, a guy at a Pearl Paint (an art supply store) during Xmas season, who was trying to get past me, said You're as big as a house! He said it more matter of factly than insultingly (as insulting as that is). I was pretty mortified.
Mine was bad because it was my DAD...
I was in high school and not really "fat", but definitely chunkier than most in my family and my dad and I got into a fight and he said, "Quit trying to argue and take your big butt back to your room."
That was one of those things that has always stuck with me. Granted, he could have said worse, but it stung pretty bad.
Mine was just recently. I was loading pictures onto photobucket to post to my blog. My 7 year old looked at my before pictures and said "wow Mommy, how did you get to be that fat?". That stung, God Bless the honesty of a child.:p
I think for me the worst is when a kid says something, yes I know kids say things, but if the parents are in earshot and don't tell them you shouldn't say things like that. I've gotten to the point now that I will say to the kid (but while clearly looking at both the parent and the child) say "You know it hurts people's feelings when you say things like that". More often than not the parent will apologize, and tell the kid too as well. The first time I did it (oh about 3 years ago) I felt so good afterward. I'm so sick of people thinking it's ok to make rude comments about heavy people.
So NO ONE knows this story...not even my current SO...but here goes.
I had a boyfriend in high school, when I was 15 who was always unwilling to make it "official" (oh the days of high school...) We would hang out, make-out, etc. but only around my friends, never around his, which I just thought was due to our differing cliques. Whatever. We ended things when he moved out of the country at 16.
At 18, I moved away to college and kept trying to convince him to come visit me, since he has subsequently moved back to the states. He never would, and I kept asking why. His response: "Because I would need one of my friends to drive me out there and I don't want them to know that I'm seeing you." When I asked him why, his response was "Well, because you're fat. I took a lot of sh*** for dating you in high school and I don't want to go back there..."